11/04/09
Siteki, Swaziland
8:45 am
The most common greeting you hear in Swaziland, is "Sawubona.'
It means "I see you".
There are many ways of seeing.
I remember during my student years, reading Foucault, an anthropologist who described 'the medical gaze'.
He postulated that when a health care worker meets a patient, the patient often becomes objectified. Dehumanised. That power resides with the health care worker and rarely with the patient.
I wish it were not the case but i know that in many, many parts of the world it is true.
It is not because health care workers are cruel. To the contrary the vast majority I have known are genuinely compassionate individuals with a commitment to the welfare of those whom they serve.
And yet there is just so much to do. So many patients to see. So little time for sleep, or food, or self care. So many agendas being thrust your way. Is it any wonder that the clinical gaze would be one which tried to be as efficent and detached as possible?
But there is more to healing than fixing a broken part.
Nowhere is that more apparent than here in Africa. I know many people who have taken a 'fast food' approach to Developing world Medicine. Their aim is to see as many patients as quickly as possible. And I know that to some degree this is required. In fact much of population health is based upon this principle... Do the most good, for the most people.
And yet if we truly want to create sustainable solutions to the crises facing the developing world, we need more.
In addition to much needed acute services such as outpatient departments and clinics that are able to see hundreds and hundreds of sick people each day. We need other services which can offer broader solutions to the complex problems which these people are facing.
Three or four days each week for the duration of my stay in Africa I will be going out with the home based care team at the Good Shepherd hospital. This wonderful team of nurses drives out along the red, dusty roads around the lebombo mountains and visits people who are known to have severe HIV infection/ or are unable to access the acute hospital because of lack of money or being too unwell to walk.
I have been asked to do some teaching for the team and offer ways of optimising the service.
Here are some of the suggestions I am making:
- No patient should be assessed on the back of a truck.
- The team should go into the hut, sit down with the patient, if possible at eye level, before making a medical assessment and prescribing medications.
- There needs to be an assessment of the needs of the family, of water supply, of sanitation. Do they have enough money to get to hospital? Are other family members sick? Are there orphans who need support services? Do they have access to food?
It might take longer. It will probably mean we see less people during the day.
But my hope is that whomever we do encounter will be 'seen'.
Some will criticise this approach as idealistic and impractical.
But i disagree.
Most of the patients seen by home based care have refractory AIDS and are going to die. It is the tragic reality of HIV and poverty in Africa. What these people need more than anything else is to be seen. To be heard. To have a thorough assessment of their physical and social needs so that further complications of their disease, like opportunistic infections, can be prevented. And so that their families will be supported and well looked after.
I say it over and over again, but when you have nothing, when you are dying a painful and solitary death - the smallest kindness, the most seemingly insignificant touch, the most cursory glance - means everything.
In truth, is this not a connecting thread that runs through the human condition?
The need for someone to look in your eyes and say simply, from the heart
"My brother, My sister,
I see you."
Sawubona,
Maithri
31 Whispers of Hope:
Maithri,
You are the new wave and new way of being the compassionate health care provider. Just by taking the time to listen to someone's story, you will have released an enormous amount of stress in one's mind and body. You will be loved by all those you see through the patience and caring that you hold within your heart. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
I believe that we live in a world and a time when people really find it difficult to truly "see" the other.
Since I have been semi-homebound over the past months, the only visitors I have are health care folks come to see me as a patient. I realize that many never "see" me at all: they are too focused on their notebook computers and filling in the blanks with my response to their questions, after which they rush off to their next appointment.
Yesterday a home health care nurse visited me. Her questions were open ended and we made eye contact throughout her time in my home. We also shared stories with each other about out lives, relatives, and experiences. My guitar was in the living room and she asked me to play and sing her a song. I did and she, although 40 years younger than me,learned and then joined me in singing the chorus.
Although she was only with me for about 45 minutes, her visit refreshed me; I felt "seen" and heard and respected. I look forward to her visiting again next month.
Maithri, what a truly authentic way to serve with integrity.
For those who criticize this approach for being idealistic and impractical, I would say, "And it is that critique that makes it the most important course of action."
Thank you for the caring, loving way you...
Serve with integrity, care about those you serve and sharing the love in your heart/soul. You are truly an angel among us.
Absolutely true!
I wish more doctors in my country understood that. They might not have to see patients on the back of a truck, but do they see the patients at all in the fancy clinics? A friend of mine is going through a difficult health problem that isn't easily diagnosed and I think if she felt someone 'saw' her, it would help. You are the kind of doctor we need more of around the world who sees patients as people, not a collection of organs.
I couldn't agree more with you, Doc M. Sometimes, there's more than just assessing the physical health of the patient. I have heard a lot of stories from patients that were "seen" by doctors who actually just breezed through leaving the patients dissatisfied and "unseen".
I am sure your patients there in Swaziland and wherever you will go will hugely appreciate your approach.
More power to you, brother!!
I wonder though, from a practical point of view, if you were taught that "disconnected-ness" to protect you as a young doctor from becoming too emotionally invested to your patients? To protect you from "burn-out" or a broken heart? (Or the cynic thinks "or to enable you to make more money, by seeing more people faster?")
But I agree with you whole-heartedly. We need more caring in the world.... We need more Maithri's in this world....
Dear, dear Doctor Maithri,
How I wish all medical practitioners had your insights, your wisdom. You are blessing all your patients and the world with your care.
As I have said before, paraphrasing St. Exupery...what is essential is only seen with the heart. Thank you for always looking with your heart into the "heart" of the matter.
Love and gratitude, Linda
Kinda like having a pool full of people drowning and only one person to save them... I guess you just keep trying for the one who needs you most at the moment and keep reaching...
I like the thought of "I see you" as a greeting.
I see you...
suffer
smile
trying to get by
your beauty
I see that greeting as one without a period at the end.
You touch my heart Maithri. There is something about being 'seen' that is life-affirming and healing in and of itself...connecting with another human being and knowing we are not alone in our struggles, but it's also more than that...a recognition on a divine level. I'm glad you have arrived safely and are bringing so much to the people there. Sawubona...it reminds me of Namaste. Have a nice Easter too.
Love and peace to you,
Kristie
Ahh...the healing power of an MY3 scan.
My brother, I see you.
Sawubona, Maithri, I won't forget this one. How wonderful it would be if we could all make that a part of our greeting to others, not necessarily in words, but in the intention. How many people do we meet, talk to on a daily basis that we don't really "see"? Yes, indeed, as Wanda wrote, the healing power of an MY3 scan! Much love to you always.
Sawubona Maithri...
Your light shines so bright...
What you say Maithri is very important, for all these things matter for the "patient" personnaly, and for his/her well being.
They cannot be neglected.
Blessings to you and your work!
Maithri
Your suggestions sound valid to me. Humanizing the sick, once again. Paying attention to their needs. After all, you can only help one person at a time, why not give that person your all while you are seeing them?
Hope you are doing well, our thoughts and hopes are with you.
xoxo
With love! Gillian
i see you my brother
i love the way you see the truth that lies around you.
i love you
i miss you
your sister
You see them as they truly are: worthy people who need our love. It is such a hopeless situation that charities won't go there? Shame on us.
Not just a number or another sick person. But a person, with dignity to be respected. Yes.
And medicine all over should be like this, and often isn't. Its just that in the west, we get pissed off with the waiting and the apparent lack of attention and our goal is to extract from the doctor whatever we want.
These people you are tending to, they get what they are given. And it sounds like it will never be enough.
But that dignity and respect, its worth the world to one who is hardly acknowledged in that way.
Bless you for your kindness.
I love what Sylvia said,make that our intention...I wish all the love and healing that you've gathered here from all these loving people could be put in a bottle and sprinked over Siteki. I wish.
Bless you Maithri,
♥ lori
as I am getting a little older, I am realizing how important it is for me to be really seen-and the gift I can give someone by taking the time to look them in the eye and really see and hear them.
I can only imagine, that in such sad circumstances, how that can completely change someone's time-to just realize that they were truly seen.
what important work you are doing.
namaste
Dying is so difficult for so many, and the touch of a human hand or a held glance make an awfully big difference. You are a good man in your teachings and I hope you are listened to.
And I see you brother!
Thank you for another inspiring post!
Maithri know that your best is good enough.We can do no more than give our all. I am surrounded in my work, in a very special school, by people who administer to the needs of chronically ill children and youth often with severe disabilities. It is humbling. My prayers to you and your team, and all those who work with vulnerable people.We that have hands and feet that work well have a responsibility to use them well.It is an interesting concept. Do our hands give, take or exchange, and what do we exchange and why? To relieve the suffering of others is a high calling, particularly the suffering of not being seen.I always hold you in my prayers Maithri.
when I need to remind myself of hope, of good I close my eyes and take a long deep breath and ...
I see you
hugs sweet doctor
Ι visit your posts twice a week to remind myself that having just trivial routine problems is what we call happiness these days.
Kia ora Maithri,
Kia kaha brother! Your ways of change are exactly what we need in all parts of our world. If we had more economic compassion for each other, for instance,would the world be in the state it is in. These are possibly times of great fundemental change and you are helping to lead the way. I honour that. I see you.
Aroha,
Robb
I see you, sweet brother.
I see you
with your good medicine:
songs draping the night like moss
a heart bursting with wild laughter
poems ripening in the bee’s chambers
I see you
with your oh so human
fears
of the mandibles
of armored insects
I see you
climb the craggy hills
to a solitary hut
no oranges, no tea, no books
only stories waiting to be told.
There is more to healing
than saving a life
we don't think of death
as a gift
but sometimes it is
sometimes it is a tender mercy
Sawubona
I see every tear falling...
I see your heart ache...
I see you wanting to change the world and one step at a time is too slow...
I see you breathing out..knowing you are changing the world...
I see them touching your hand...
I see them feeling your smile...
I see them embracing the love pouring from your heart to their's...
I see the light in their eyes when they see you...
I see you xx
None of us wants to be invisible, especially when we are ill. To be ill and have nothing but pain and worry would be hell on earth.
You must seem like an angel to these people who need you and those like you so badly.
You are being the change you want to see, let's hope it is contagious..
love to you and all you do
xxx
I see you, too, Brother.
I hope you don't mind, but I want to tell you my own Sawubona story.
As you know, I am a second grade teacher. I believe that my profession requires me to study the brain, how it works, what it needs to optimize learning. But, my job is about so much more than the brain. It's about the person, the heart, the hurts, the home, the experiences that each student brings with them each day. I try so hard, every day, to meet those needs. All those needs. And to fill in every gap I find. Gaps in knowledge, in caring, in good manners, in affection... In love.
I'm always looking for a better way to do it, too. Last year I read a book called A History of Love by Nicole Krauss. Here's an excerpt.
I try to make a point of being seen. Sometimes when I'm out, I'll buy a juice even though I'm not thirsty. If the store is crowded I'll even go so far as dropping my change all over the floor, the nickles and dimes skidding in every direction. I'll get down on my knees. It's a big effort for me to get down on my knees. It's an even bigger effort to get up. And yet.
... All I want is not to die on a day I when I went unseen.After reading that book, I changed the way I talk to my students. I don't say, "Good job on ________." I say, "I noticed that you ________." We all need to be seen.
I teach my students that being seen, noticing, is important. And, I teach them how to notice each other. The first thing I teach them is how to look someone in the eye. And why it is important. We learn to compliment each other and do so every morning. We learn to look in our own eyes in the mirror - and to say nice things. Every morning, we go around the circle greeting each other. First, we look into another person's eyes, then we share a greeting we've learned. Keeping eye contact, the other person returns the greeting and then moves on to their neighbor. Every morning, every day, every one is seen. Every day.
To lend variety, I've taught my students how to shake hands. How to greet each other Southern Style, with Texas Twang, in French, in Spanish, in Japanese, in Greek, in Hebrew, and in Korean.
Tomorrow morning I will teach them Sawubona and we will see each other once more.
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